Planning the Perfect Romantic and Seductive Date Night –
Part 8 of 10
7. Date night conversations continued…
In yesterday’s post we started to look at date night
conversations, covering; some stuff to avoid, what you are trying to achieve
with your date night conversations and some general tips. Today we’ll look at a
series of conversation tips that are divided into the following three sections…
- Conversation tips for early on in your conversation.
- Tips for the middle of your date night
conversation.
- And finally what I call ‘later’ conversation
tips.
The purpose of each set of tips are explained under its
relevant section, but suffice to say the later ones are aimed more at seducing
your partner and getting her mind into the right place. The tips are there to
point you in the right direction for the sorts of questions that you can ask
and also to help you for if your conversation goes a little dead.
Now - there are quite a few tips here, there’s a lot to
remember and obviously you can’t go into your conversations armed with a bit of
paper detailing exactly what you want to ask your partner, so can I suggest
that you take the time and put in the effort to prepare for your conversations.
Yes that’s right, I said “prepare”. Why? Because the one time you don’t want to
have to think about what to say to your partner is when you are suddenly stuck
for something to say. All that I’m suggesting is that by memorising one
question from each of the three sections then you can bring that question out
if at any point you need to kick start your conversation again. When you’ve
used one of them, you can just come back here, learn another and then it’s
ready for a time when you might need it.
Early
Early conversation suggestions – these are ideas to use
early on in your conversation with your partner, ie at the beginning of your
date night. These should at the very least start the conversational ball
rolling…
- Hobbies are always a great conversation piece.
You’ll know exactly what your partners hobbies are, so you should be able to
think of some questions about her hobby. Where’s she at with it at the minute?
What’s the next thing that she’s going to do with it? etc. Hobbies that your
partner had as a child is also a good one.
- Start up a brand new hobby, and do it together,
taking up gardening or growing your own vegetables, for example, might not
sound that exciting on the face of it, but it will give you loads and loads of
new things to talk about.
- Ask your partner for her advice on something,
ask for her support with something, ask for her thoughts on a topic you’ve been
mulling over. This will also have the added benefit of showing her that you
value her. If you’re not comfortable with this idea then hey, you could always
pretend you’re valuing her opinion - but do try and make it believable!
- Ask your partner “what shall we do for fun this
weekend?”
- Try asking your partner what she is thinking and
what she is feeling (she might have asked you the same question countless
times, so turn the table!)
- Try complimenting and appreciating your partner,
for example – you could tell her that she “looks nice in what she is wearing at
the moment”, or “you looked nice when you walked in through the door from
work”. Ask her more about the outfit she’s wearing / she wore to work that day.
Where did she get it from?
- If she’s made you a lovely dinner then tell her
it’s delicious and then ask questions about it to show you that you care beyond
the ‘thank you’ and ‘it’s very nice’. For example - ask her what she put into
it to make it so nice. Just show some genuine interest.
- If you both share a love of food then that very
subject is a great conversation keeper upper – perhaps you’ve seen a new recipe
that you’d like to try out for example, if so go talk about it with your
partner, get the recipe out to show her.
- We talked earlier about you listening out for
‘clues’ in what your partner is saying when she answers you in order to keep
the conversation going. With that in mind then here are a few tips to ask
having been given these ‘clues’ by your partner. So, for example, when your
partner is talking about something you could ask her the following sorts of
questions about the subject…
- What about that do you love?
- What about that makes you happy?
- How do you feel about that?
- What do you think about that?
- The following are questions you can’t ask too
often, but are also great conversation starters, as they will more than likely
also give you lots of opportunities to ask other questions as a result of your
partners answer…
- Ask your partner what the best present that
you've given her is – and when she’s finished tell her what the best present
she’s given you is.
- Ask your partner what have been some of the
funniest moments you’ve had together.
- Ask your partner what she would you give you if
money were no object, and vice versa, what would you give her if money were no
object.
- Ask her who her favourite teacher was and why.
- Ask her what her favourite three or four films
are, and then this might lead neatly into discussing a film that you’ve heard
about recently that you’d both like to go and see.
- Ask your partner a question about success – that
if she was “guaranteed success” in a venture what would she do? Then listen out
for those vital clues to keep the conversation going in the answers that she
gives you. There should be quite a few clues if your partner gives you good
answers.
- Ask her how she likes to relax (and it’s worth
noting that you could learn a lot from the answers that she gives to help you).
- Ask her what her perfect day would look like?
- Who would play her in a film about her life?
- Who would she most like to meet, living or dead?
- Ask your partner what she’d most like to be
remembered for? Bit heavy that one though!
Middle
Middle conversation tips. These are ideas to use once you’ve
moved on a bit in your conversation, ie you need to have at least warmed the
conversation up a bit first before you can use these…
- Ask your partner what makes her happy?
- Ask her what music she likes that she’s heard
recently?
- Talk about holidays that you've had together
that have been really enjoyable. Talk about the best and worst holidays that
your partner had as a child or just generally before she met you.
- Ask her “where shall we go on holiday this year /
next year?”
- Get your partner talking about, thinking about
and remembering all of the good stuff that she’s achieved in her life so far –
this has the added benefit of boosting self-esteem.
- You could ask about what your partner would like
to achieve by the time she’s 40, 50, 60, 70, etc.
- Talk about what you've done for each other that
made each of you really happy.
- Say to her “Remember when... (and then add the
name of the event that you will both remember and enjoy talking about)”.
- Tell each other what you appreciate most about
each other.
- Tell each other what you admire most about each
other.
- Laugh about the past, dream about the future and
generally get inside her mind! Share your dreams that you both have for your
future together. Find out what each others dreams and aspirations for your
future together are. Go imagine a dream future together, where money was no
object. Asking “what we’d do if we won the lottery?” for example, would get
this sort of conversation off to a great start.
- Think of three words that describe the best
aspects of your partner's personality and share them with her.
- Ask your partner “what do I do that makes you
feel loved?” You should be able to learn a lot from this - so listen well and
make mental notes for yourself about what questions you can ask her next as she
gives you her answer.
- Talk about some of the most romantic things
you've done for each other.
- Has your love for each other ever made you do
strange things? Talk about what, where, when and why.
- If you could give your partner anything in the
world what are four things you would choose to give. And then hope that she
asks you the same back in return!
Late
The tips in this section are ideas to get you both talking
about things that will start to invoke the intense desire that you both had for
each other in the early days of your relationship – re-ignite these feelings
and you are well on your way. Don’t forget though that you can’t just launch
straight into these, you’ve got to have warmed the conversation up properly first…
- Talk about when you first met. When did you
realise you were in love? How did you know? How did you tell each other that
you were in love?
- Talk about what your first impressions of each
other were. What drew you both to one another? Who asked who out on a date, and
what made you or your partner say yes?
- What are the things that you find the most
attractive about each other?
- Reminisce about your first date, what you wore,
what you talked about, talk about what first attracted you to each other, was
it the way your partner said a particular thing to you, or was it what she
wore, or the words she used, or the way that she flicked her hair, for example.
- Talk about things that happened early on in your
relationship - where you met, talk about how you met, what pub you went to
first, your first kiss (and where you were for it), what did it feel like?
- What have been some of the most romantic things
you’ve done for each other?
- Dust off the wedding album, grab out your
wedding video, reminisce over the great day that you both had. This is some
seriously powerful rekindling magic right there, sat waiting dustily on your
bookshelf.
- And it doesn’t just have to be your wedding
album, grab out any old photo album and you’ve got a whole stack of reminiscing
and conversation starters sat right there.
- Ask your partner what makes her feel sexy?
- Ask her what music she loves that gets her in
the mood.
- If it feels right you could also be going for
some sexual double entendre’s at this point. Do test the water to see what
happens though. If she’s moving towards you conversationally then you could
keep it going, but if she’s moving away from you then do go careful. What you
don’t want to do is to pressure your partner towards the bedroom too soon if
she’s not in the right place.
- What are some of the most memorable sexual
moments you’ve had together. Where you first had sex for example! What are some
of the most adventurous places that you've had sex? Talk about a fantasy that
you’ve both got that you’d like to try out, just be careful that you don’t
apply too much pressure in then expecting your partner to carry it out.
- Tell your partner that she makes you feel good,
tell her that her body really turns you on, or simply tell her that she turns
you on. But do try to use these types of statements only when it’s appropriate
to do so.
These sorts of conversation ideas are only the tip of the
iceberg. There are loads and loads more possibilities, and all I wanted to do
here was to get you started and to give you a few pointers in the right
direction. Look out for a blog post to come soon with more conversation ideas.
In tomorrow’s post we’ll look at some going out date night
ideas and tips. Thanks for reading..